Weddings

Congratulations on your engagement and decision to get married! This is an exciting time for you and your fiancée, we hope that the information on this page will help you in the planning of your wedding as you start this exciting journey together.

The decision to get married is a life-changing one and perhaps one of the biggest decisions you will ever make.  A church wedding recognises the significance of what you are doing and adds both solemnity and joy to the occasion; it uniquely allows those gathered for the wedding to pray for you and invites God’s blessing on your new relationship.

If you are thinking of getting married in the Arle Valley Benefice we would love to talk to you.

Come and find out more about weddings in our Benefice:
Download our Wedding Booklet
Download our Wedding Application Form

Can we get married in the Arle Valley Benefice?

You are entitled to get married in any our Benefice churches if:

a)   You live in the Benefice (New Alresford, Old Alresford, Ovington and Bighton)
b)   You don’t live in the parish but you have worshipped with us on a regular basis
       for at least 6 months.  
c)    If you have what is termed a Qualifying Connection which could be any of the following:

• Either of you has lived in the parish for at least 6 months at any point in your life.
• Either of you was baptised or confirmed in the parish.
• Any of your parents or grandparents were married in one of our churches.
• Any of your parents lived in the parish after you were born or themselves worshipped in one of our churches for a period of 6 months. 

If you are uncertain which Church of England parish you live in, this website will be helpful.

What if one or both of us are divorced?

We welcome applications for marriage from people who have been divorced. We recognise that people make mistakes and that divorce is nearly always a painful experience, but we believe we have a God of forgiveness who always gives us the opportunity to make a fresh start. The Rector will, of course, need to be sure that you have properly worked through any previous relationships and that you are prepared to be honest and have resolved any outstanding issues which may jeopardise the new relationship.

How much will it cost?

There is a required legal fee for marrying in a church. In 2024 it costs £567 if you marry in the parish where you both live, £585 if one of you lives in another parish and £675 if both of you live in different parishes from each other and plan to marry in another parish.

The link below leads to our wedding fees schedule.

Click here for 2024 Wedding Fees

This is set by the Church of England nationally and is the same for every church.

This basic legal fee includes the cost of the vicar, the church, publishing your banns, a banns certificate, the marriage certificate, lighting and all administration.

This required fee has ancient origins and ensures your church can maintain essential services like weddings, christenings, funerals and all kinds of other ministries for you and your community.

How do we book a date?

Please telephone the Benefice Administrator:
Penny Forbes on 01962 733545 or email: arlevalleychurches@gmail.com
Office hours: Monday to Friday 10:00 am to 12:00 pm.

What happens next?

When you book a wedding you will be invited to come to a booking interview at the Benefice office at St. John's. This will last about 30 minutes. During this time the Benefice Administrator will enter onto her computer all the correct factual information about names and addresses and dates of birth etc. and she will require proof of your ID and your address – so please bring your driving licence or passport. If you have been divorced, then she will also need to see your decree absolute. This meeting will ensure that you are legally entitled to be married in the Benefice, will give you some basic information and answer any questions you may have.

At the beginning of the year of your wedding – in late January or early February – you will be sent a leaflet confirming the date and time of the wedding, informing you of the total cost and giving you some further information. You will be asked for a deposit of £100 to confirm the booking.

You will also be invited to contact the Rector who will be taking your wedding to arrange two further, hour-long interviews in order for you to get to know them. At these meetings you will be able to plan the service and choose readings and hymns and talk through what it means to have a Christian marriage.

In the week before the wedding – usually the evening before – you will also be invited to the church for a 30 minute walk through and rehearsal.

This means that you will have met the minister on at least 4 occasions before the wedding and by then you should know each other quite well which helps us make every wedding personal to the couple concerned.

Please follow the link to the Church of England's 'Your Church Wedding'
website for further information and some real-life wedding stories.

Marriage Preparation Day

Our next Marriage Preparation Day is Saturday, 22nd February 2025 at 10am in the Rectory. 

This day is designed to help you prepare for your wedding, a very special event in both of your lives, and will include opportunities for you to think about the details and arrangements for your wedding, as well as an opportunity to reflect upon some aspects of married life in some small group sessions.

We want your wedding to be a memorable point in your life together and we believe very strongly that it is worth investing time in preparing for it.

If you have missed it, we hope to run a Preparation Day every year in February.

How to obtain your Marriage Certificate

You will need to contact the Hampshire Register Office directly to purchase a certificate, as indicated below. The certificates are £12.50 each (standard delivery as of 2024).

Your Marriage certificate will be available by the 7th day after the Marriage Document is received at the register office. The Marriage Document will be posted by the Rector following your service.

You will be able to order the certificate online by visiting the Hampshire Register Office: https://www.hants.gov.uk/birthsdeathsandceremonies/registrationservices/get-married/certificates.